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    We were grabbing a bite of lunch at a small cafe, in a mall, right across from a booth that sold jewelry and where ears could be pierced for a fee. A mother approaches with a little girl of six or seven years old. The little girl is clearly stating that she doesn’t want her ears pierced, that’s she’s afraid of how much it will hurt, that she doesn’t like earrings much in the first place. Her protests, her clear ‘no’ is simply not heard. The mother and two other women, who work the booth, begin chatting and trying to engage the little girl in picking out a pair of earrings. She has to wear a particular kind when the piercing is first done but she could pick out a fun pair for later.

    "I don’t want my ears pierced."

    "I don’t want any earrings."

    The three adults glance at each other conspiratorially and now the pressure really begins. She will look so nice, all the other girls she knows wear earrings, the pain isn’t bad.

    She, the child, sees what’s coming and starts crying. As the adults up the volume so does she, she’s crying and emitting a low wail at the same time. “I DON’T WANT MY EARS PIERCED.”

    Her mother leans down and speaks to her, quietly but strongly, the only words we could hear were ‘… embarrassing me.’

    We heard, then, two small screams, when the ears were pierced.

    Little children learn early and often that ‘no doesn’t mean no.’

    Little children learn early that no one will stand with them, even the two old men looking horrified at the events from the cafeteria.

    Little girls learn early and often that their will is not their own.

    No means no, yeah, right.

    Most often, for kids and others without power, ”no means force.”

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    from "No Means Force" at Dave Hingsburger’s blog.

    This is important. It doesn’t just apply to little girls and other children, though it often begins there.

    For the marginalized, our “no’s” are discounted as frivolous protests, rebelliousness, or anger issues, or we don’t know what we’re talking about, or we don’t understand what’s happening.

    When “no means force” we become afraid to say no.

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  4. "A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won’t go anywhere."
    — Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
     
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  7. nightmarecub:

    Hairy mounds 🐻

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  8. pakeeztani:

    relahvant:

    eholaura:

    solarselection:

    small-baby-chihiro:

    ocebutt:

    dooptown:

    i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again

    YOU DO NOT NEED TO BRING YOUR GUN TO THE GROCERY STORE

    how does america even function like it sounds like a video game or something. grand theft freedom.

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    what in the pure fuck

    HOW IS THIS NORMAL?!

    "we don’t have a gun problem" they said

    please note they are all white as well

    (via thebearprogrammer)

     
  9. defranco:

    Nation! You made it to Friday. I put $100 on this Starbucks card for you to share. Grab a coffee :). Also if you’re more a giver you can reload the card when you buy your next cup. Love ya Nation. Happy Friday :)

     
  10. woods-baby:

    lemon balm, chamomile & borage from my healing garden

    (Source: woods-baby, via omgplants)

     

  11. onlinecounsellingcollege:

    1. Stop discounting your successes - start affirming them instead. Don’t say “Oh, it’s nothing” or “Everyone could do that”. Treat, and talk to, yourself as you would a good friend.

    2. Develop a positive attitude, and choose to get your mind off the negatives. For example, write down three things…

     
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  13. coffeestainedanchors:

    iacknowledgebuttholesexist:

    Did you know that in certain European countries it is illegal to display any sort of Nazi symbol? What the fascist white supremacist neo-Nazi scum of Germany, France, etc. have been doing is displaying the Confederate flag instead, because there is no ban on it.

    So the next time someone tries to tell you that the flag of the Confederacy has nothing to do with racism, remember that actual Nazis are using it as their preferred symbol, and please remind them that they are actually pieces of literal shit.

    Wow

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  15. enjoythesemoments:

    epicboners:

    kinglnthenorth:

    thealoofnightowl:

    feministcatlady:

    thesherlockednerdfighter:

    What the actual fuck

    These people exist.

    What the fuck

    just… just fuck off america

    The hell is wrong with you, America.

    They’re actually smiling about it wtf

    (Source: lnthefade, via poeticactor)